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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member  Without Jesus we fall short...
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Hamster wrote: In no circumstances is it ever alright to hit a child...........ever........period! I agree. No hitting. Just have them little ones bend over and...Spank  Spank Spank those bottoms.
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Shorty Original500© Member 
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I spank mine properly when she needs it. But knowing she will get it usually keeps her in line.
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Shorty wrote: I spank mine properly when she needs it. But knowing she will get it usually keeps her in line. 
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sirlamre Pioneer100© Member Official Forum Troublemaker
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"His mother, my dear Grandma, used the Wooden Spoon Method. She would simply open the large utensil drawer which housed her feared Wooden Spoon and every one of her grandchildren would disappear in a flash, ha-ha. Never in my life have I seen her actually USE the thing." This is the tactic I hope to use--- Joshua is too young to even consider anything like this ... he's 1 tomorrow!
Turn thou unto God and say: O my Sovereign Lord! I am but a vassal of Thine, and Thou art, in truth, the King of kings. I have lifted my suppliant hands unto the heaven of Thy grace and Thy bounties. Send down, then, upon me from the clouds of Thy generos |
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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sirlamre wrote: "His mother, my dear Grandma, used the Wooden Spoon Method. She would simply open the large utensil drawer which housed her feared Wooden Spoon and every one of her grandchildren would disappear in a flash, ha-ha. Never in my life have I seen her actually USE the thing." I agree.  Joshua also needs a little more padding back there. Wait a couple of years right?  Then "Wooden Spoon Method" time.Last edited on 04:09 am by JustifiedByFaith Jesus said, "Take heed that no one deceives you." Matthew 24:4 |
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Lady Cop Pioneer100© Member  BAH HUMBUG
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my dear little 5' grandmother had 4 sons over 6' tall...one of them my Dad. she was hard-working, and alone in the world after the loss of her husband. they were all good boys, and grew into very fine men. but when they were 'bad' she'd wait until they went to bed at night and go in and whack them but good!  they respected and loved her with all their hearts all their lives. 
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Lady Cop wrote: my dear little 5' grandmother had 4 sons over 6' tall...one of them my Dad. she was hard-working, and alone in the world after the loss of her husband. they were all good boys, and grew into very fine men. but when they were 'bad' she'd wait until they went to bed at night and go in and whack them but good! It works! I never read about "Time-Out" in the bible.
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foxglovepress Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  NON-PC!!
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I think Lot's of love and discipline when needed is a perfect combo. That child Saint talked about sounds to me like it was SCREAMING for some. That mother should have been told her and her brat were ban from the store until they BOTH learned some manners! Personally, I think back in the good old days, when children got there swats (on the bottom), they grew up to be a lot better children than today's youth! That's quite a statement huh? 
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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foxglovepress wrote: Personally, I think back in the good old days, when children got there swats (on the bottom), they grew up to be a lot better children than today's youth! That's quite a statement huh? Nope, not coming from a down to earth traditionalist like yourself. Looking for the good ole days is a honest venture I think... 
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  Learning Contentment
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My son has never been spanked and he is a loving, respectful, polite and honest boy. I really do not think spanking is necessary. My daughter is now an adult and she was spanked once after running into traffic - nearly scared me to death - but I never spanked her again. We had some "issues" in her teen years but she has been a respectful child 99.99% of the time since birth. I credit religious training, fear of God, regular schedules, and swift and immediate consequences, for my children's good character. They always knew what was expected and I always kept my word. JustifiedByFaith mentioned earlier the method of offering two options to a child and refusing to entertain other options. This is what I have always done: "Listen, here are your choices: Hang your clean clothes or go to bed early. Your choice," or "Take 50 million years to complete your homework and remain inside until bedtime, or finish your homework within the hour and play outside. Your choice." It is important to me that my children understand life is about choices. They have a choice every moment of the day to be a person of good character or a complete lout, and no one can make that choice for them. As a Bahá'í, I firmly believe hitting and spanking pervert the character of a child. Last year, I read a disturbing report about how many Americans my age enjoy sado-masochistic sexuality. The researcher found that those who followed this lifestyle had been spanked in childhood at least three times a week. Each to his own, but I believe sado-masochistic sexual practices are a perversion of healthy sexuality, not at all desirable. I really want my kids to enjoy healthy sexual relationships in adulthood. You may say there is no correlation but the studies are compelling. I'll have to find it and post it here.
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Britt wrote: My son has never been spanked and he is a loving, respectful, polite and honest boy. I really do not think spanking is necessary. My daughter is now an adult and she was spanked once after running into traffic - nearly scared me to death - but I never spanked her again. We had some "issues" in her teen years but she has been a respectful child 99.99% of the time since birth. I credit religious training, fear of God, regular schedules, and swift and immediate consequences, for my children's good character. They always knew what was expected and I always kept my word. We also like choices as you said I mentioned earlier. The key is making sure you like either option they choose. You win every time! Plus, it makes them feel good even if they can't put one and one together that the options are not always in thier best interest. Plus I find I get better respect from my children later. Because after a while I say,"Doesn't mom and dad give you a lot of choices?" They say "Yes" then I say, "Ok, now it's my turn, "Go to bed." They go to bed with no problem and if they don't I say, "Ok, do you want us to make all the choices or do you choose to go to bed." Of couse they choose to go to bed. It's just a game. We win almost all the time...  Last edited on 05:11 am by JustifiedByFaith Jesus said, "Take heed that no one deceives you." Matthew 24:4 |
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Each and every time two humans interact there is an energy exchange that goes on. We are brought up to crave energy (instead of learning how to make it ourselves) and between parent and child it can become a power struggle. The child misbehaves and the parent scolds them giving them attention but more importantly energy. This then becomes a repeating pattern as the child grows up and leads to situations where that young adult tries to control situations to get energy from people. They know no other way to receive it. This explains Britts figures on Sado Masochism in adults too. We need to learn how to get attention and energy in a positive way by sharing; and then to teach or children the same things.
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JustifiedByFaith wrote: Hamster wrote:In no circumstances is it ever alright to hit a child...........ever........period! Whether you justify it by calling it a"spank" or not...It is still teaching them the only way they can win as an adult is through physical superiority and force. Do you really want to pass that message on? That as a parent daddy could only win by "spanking" me when he had no other way? It collapses their world-they look to you as having answers for everything and to spank actually says to them "I'm all out of reason and ideas so I'll just have to hit you instead." All you have to do is REALLY look them in the eye afterwards and you'll have your answer. You've won that time-but at what cost?
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newbiecollector Pioneer100© Member  You can't fake real
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I tried to explain what I think earlier. I do not think a spanking is necessary for a parent to show a child that they are very disappointed in them, and not pleased.
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cynicalninja Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  Smiling Shinobi
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JustifiedByFaith wrote: Hamster wrote:In no circumstances is it ever alright to hit a child...........ever........period! Spanking is hitting, I would have thought that was obvious. If I ever punch someones lights out I'll try that defence in court JBF. "No your honour I didn't hit him, I merely spanked him........in the face !" 
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