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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  Learning Contentment
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 Hello! One of my local friends asked this question of me last week. I have my own opinion about the issue but I would very much like to hear your thoughts. What do you think I should have told her? She is married and the child in question is almost three years old. As you can imagine, the issue is having a tremendous impact on her marriage.My immediate response to her question was surprise: "And how is your marriage?" I know from experience that kids sleeping in Mom and Dad's bed can lead to a sexless marriage, LOL. In my mind, it is better to set up a separate bed in the same room for the first year, then assign a separate room for the child in the second year. So, what do y'all think? QUESTION: "When should a toddler sleep alone? My daughter has been sleeping with us since birth. Now that we have purchased a separate bed for her, she refuses to sleep in it! What should we do? My husband is getting tired of this." -T. H. in New Mexico
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librtyhead Original500© Member 
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WOW!...............2 weeks after birth!
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Amy Original500© Member  ...going with the flow...
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My kids never slept with us...they always had their own crib/bed, in their own rooms. We always had the monitor turned on in case they needed us though. The only time either of my girls climbed in bed with us is if they woke up with a nightmare. I think it's hard to break once it's started, so wouldn't recommend it to begin with.
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member Learning Contentment
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librtyhead wrote: WOW!...............2 weeks after birth! Hahaha! I hear ya! Yeah, that whole "family bed" thing is really overrated. 
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member Learning Contentment
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9harmony wrote: I think it's hard to break once it's started, so wouldn't recommend it to begin with. You're probably right. Still, for breastfeeding purposes, I found the crib-next-to-the-bed solution immensely helpful. In my daughter's case, we kept her in a separate crib open next to our bed so I could easily breastfeed in the night. When she turned one year-old, she insisted on her own room, haha. It worked well. My son was more difficult to convince, however. He took a lot of convincing, poor kid. He is not as independent as my daughter. I feel sorry for my friend!!! Her husband is ready to pull his hair out!!! 
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Amy Original500© Member ...going with the flow...
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Britt wrote: Still, for breastfeeding purposes, I found the crib-next-to-the-bed solution immensely helpful. I was always afraid I would fall asleep and roll on top of them, so I didn't breastfeed laying down. our room was too small to add a crib to anyway. I just had a nice comfy rocking chair in their room. yeah, i feel for them too...i imagine the patience starts wearing a little thin after 3 years. Last edited on 11:33 pm by Amy |
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librtyhead Original500© Member
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The bassinet is a good place for the first couple of weeks its on wheels so it tools around the bed fast. After that though its in a crib with bumpers and a monitor (We had some weird stuff happen with them!) I have heard some crazy stories of kids still in the room with the parents, and its a hard habit to break with kids, it may even make them prone to sleepwalking as the kids start looking for familiar surroundings in the middle of the night.
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foxglovepress Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  NON-PC!!
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FROM THE DAY THEY'ER BORN!
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member  Without Jesus we fall short...
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My method isn't always the most comfortable. I would say that your daughter isn't running the show. If it's time for her to transfer to her own bed than you and your husband need to step up to the plate and give her 2 options something like: "You make the choice tonight honey, do you want to sleep in your own bed or outside with the dog?" " It's your choice, would you rather sleep on top of the roof of the house outside tonight or in you own bed, it's your choice, which one do you choose?" " Mommy and daddy think your bigger now to make your own choices...so...would you rather sleep in your own special bed or sleep outside on the grass with all the bugs and spiders?" I am sure she will make wise choices.  Last edited on 01:21 am by JustifiedByFaith Jesus said, "Take heed that no one deceives you." Matthew 24:4 |
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member Learning Contentment
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JustifiedByFaith wrote: "You make the choice tonight honey, do you want to sleep in your own bed or outside with the dog?" HAHAHAHAHA! That is essentially what I told my son, ha-ha, sans the dog. My sweetly delivered speech was more like, "You know those horned toads you like to play with? Well, tonight you have a choice: You can sleep in your big boy bed or you can sleep outside with the horned toads." "Horned toads! Horned toads!", he cried, jumping at the chance to be one with a group of lizards. Yep, I had to take THAT idea back to the drawing board, hahaha.
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Britt wrote: JustifiedByFaith wrote:"You make the choice tonight honey, do you want to sleep in your own bed or outside with the dog?"  There is a parenting class called, Love & Logic". My wife and I just love it. It puts the decision in the laps of the child. You give them two choices. They must pick one. If they make the wrong decision it is "thier" consequence. This way, you win almosty every time. The options arn't always what "they" want but what "You want".  It's fun when you see thier face when you say, "Ok, it's your choice... you hav 2 options..."
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Check it out Britt, "Love & Logic" maybe you have already heard about it?
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member Learning Contentment
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JustifiedByFaith wrote: Britt wrote:JustifiedByFaith wrote:"You make the choice tonight honey, do you want to sleep in your own bed or outside with the dog?" Yep, my mom taught me that one, though I don't think it was from that program, just something she learned from her wise Scottish gran. Grandmothers are often quite amazing. 
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JustifiedByFaith Pioneer100© Member Without Jesus we fall short...
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Britt wrote: JustifiedByFaith wrote:Britt wrote:JustifiedByFaith wrote:"You make the choice tonight honey, do you want to sleep in your own bed or outside with the dog?" We also give the kids a weekly allowance. They don't have to do anything to earn it. But, they can lose it. Every consequence costs them money. Often, we never have to give them anything at the end of the week.  Just terrible huh?
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JustifiedByFaith wrote: We also give the kids a weekly allowance. They don't have to do anything to earn it. But, they can lose it. Every consequence costs them money. Often, we never have to give them anything at the end of the week. Accepting consequences builds character. 'Tis good!My ten year-old son budgets his money. He sees me creating minor miracles on a limited budget, ha-ha, and now he has begun budgeting his monthly allowance. Makes me proud! Both my kids manage money well. My son has managed to save $30 in the last five months, a terrific effort for one so young. He also gives to the Bahá'í Fund, a voluntary sort of tithing for us. "Pay God first, then pay yourself (i.e. save)," I tell him. Isn't it satisfying to see our kids growing into such wonderful people? I am sure your daughters are learning tremendous responsibility with money, as well.
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