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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member  Learning Contentment
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 Hello! Have an opinion about child education you would like to share? Please post it! We can all benefit from your perspective and experience. C'mon, give it a try! We want to hear your opinion.Long Distance Daddies Can Be Great Guest opinion by Britt. My father was a long distance daddy. The non-custodial father of two children, my father made every effort to maintain regular and consistent contact with his kids. Both my brother Ian, now a 37 year-old happily married father of twin girls, and me, a 39 year-old divorced mother of two children and one grandchild, felt our father's love every day of our young lives. Though we were in his physical presence only two months out of every year, we knew we were the beloved kinder of our Dutch pater. From the time of the divorce until we left home for university, my father called us long-distance several times a week. Each call was at least an hour long. To this day, my father and I talk at least once a week, though 2,500 miles and seven states separate us. My dad's most notable achievement as a long distance father, however, was producing no less than fifty-five audio tapes for my brother and I to enjoy. Though they are now worn, and half no longer play, I treasure them. Dad read books like Pippy Longstalking, 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea, Treasure Island, classic Dutch fairy tales, and (in the spirit of the 1970's need to understand relationship psychology), TA (Transactional Analysis) for Tots. His deep, rather flat and analytical engineers voice would read these books with all the inflection and animation he could muster. My father's usual business-like demeanor would be transformed into that of a tender man playing with his children. These tapes are sublime. Though no measure of long distance fathering can ever approach the benefit of full-time fathering, there are ways to make long distance fathering great. When the obstacles of distance and angry ex-wives get in the way, many men simply choose to become absent fathers. They don't call, they don't visit and they reluctantly, if at all, provide child support. They simply give up. I have met numerous men who say things like, "Yeah, she (the ex-wife) makes it too hard. They (their children) will find me when they need me," or "The kids live too far away. They have a step-dad now, anyway." Due to my father's noble attempts to stay active in our lives despite the distance my mother forced between us, it angers me when long distant non-custodial fathers choose to be absent. It is a cowardly act to simply give up and abandon a child. God bless men who make every attempt to be in their children's lives. God bless men who fight daily to have a presence in the lives of their children despite the obstacles of divorce, distance, economic hardship, demanding jobs, illness and hurt feelings. Such men are true heroes to be honored and respected. To my own father, I say: "Thank you, Pater, for loving me, though the obstacles were great and your suffering was even greater. I love you." 
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newbiecollector Pioneer100© Member  You can't fake real
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You touched mt heart with that post Britt. Thank you so much
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Britt Forum-Blogger© Original500© Member Learning Contentment
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newbiecollector wrote: You touched mt heart with that post Britt. Thank you, Newbie. I sent it to my pater. He is such a wonderful man. 
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Amy Original500© Member  ...going with the flow...
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That is really wonderful Britt! I imagine it will bring a tear to your pater's eye. 
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